The Ten Tender Mandates for the Grieving Writer
- I am a valuable and wonderful person. I am _________ (loved one’s name) ________ (aunt, uncle, father, mother, brother, sister, daughter, son, child or friend).
- I will honor my time to write for it is important.
- I will not judge my work – no feeling is “wrong.” I will just let my writing stand and “be.”
- I am free to share my work and free not to share it with anyone.
- I will write honestly – no pretending.
- While finding time to write should not put me in a frenzied state, I will try to calmly make the time to write, just as I make the time for other activities.
- I will not be afraid to cry.
- I will care for myself as ____________’s (name of loved one’s) __________ (relationship to loved one – father, son, sister, etc.).
- I know some of the discoveries through writing may be pleasant; others may be painful. There is no healing without emotions.
10. I will seek to understand how the benefits of writing can aide in a healthy healing.
~ by Alice J. Wisler